Valentine's Day Discussion

Had another awesome English Club. Of course, the theme was Valentine’s Day and there was a nice mix of boys and girls and new and old. Could have been a sensitive subject but no one was particularly shy. Like the best English Clubs, I kicked it off with a few questions and soon it took on a life of its own.

Issues that came up were what do young people call people they are dating: lover, girl or boy friend or sweetheart. I clarified like this: boyfriend and girlfriend is the most normal thing to call a couple, lovers is a bit too poetic, and sweetheart is something your parents might say about your relationship.

Big discussion about why in Kazakhstan boyfriends and girlfriends are less visible in public and why in general boys and girls hang out separately in public. I raised the question of why I only see girls going out to restaurants, and a big reason seemed to be that the boys might be forced to pay if it was a mixed group (and as university students, they don’t have any money) and that boys would prefer to drink beer or play billiards.

Also one hopelessly outnumbered kid tried to defend his position that even on a date the boy shouldn’t have to pay for the girl. He would have been doing okay except he seemed to be saying that he would never ever pay for the girl.

It’s always a pleasure to do discussion club when I get to talk a bit for the first 30 minutes, and then get to listen for an hour.

Then I asked if they celebrate Valentine’s Day and how or what they do. That got a few stories going and we talked a bit about the kinds of gifts boys get for girls they like. They started to ask me about the traditions in the US so I threw it back to them, then after the conversation died down, I explained that Valentine’s Day is for couples, not really friends because there had been some confusion on that point and normal things to do like give flowers, give chocolates, and go out for dinner. They started discussing differences between young people in the US and young people in Kazakhstan. For the first time, I felt like a participant in the discussion instead of a moderator. And that is the best discussion club of all!

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